Domestic Help Crises – The Career Woman’s STRESS-O-METRE.

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I was visiting with my friend recently and she talked about what was stressing her out so much. I chatted with another friend today and her stress issues were the same. Last week, I chatted with my sister and she decried what all my career friends are crying about. That cry is louder now with back to school.    

There is a crises brewing nationwide. From the town of the seven hills to the coastal plains and Savanah grasslands; to the slopes of the majestic Mount Fako, a serious crisis is brewing and career women are caught in the thick of it.

Year in, year out, it is the same story, a never ending circle. The same cry which has the capacity to increase the Stress-O-Metre of many a career woman.

The domestic worker scarcity is fast becoming a crisis.

In the past, while our mothers worked the farms or scaled the markets, many of us need not worry about who took care of us. There was always an aunty, or a neighbour to keep an eye on us.

Times have changed. A village raising a child is fast becoming a thing of the past as many struggle to make ends meet.

What though are some causes for these domestic workers crises?  Why are many of them running away? There are quite a lot of reasons but I will focus on those I know could be contributing factors to these and  the increased rise of temperature on this stress-o-metre of career women.

MALTREATMENT

Many of these workers face a lot of maltreatment at the hands of their mistresses.  They work long hours. In addition, many are poorly fed and if they are live-in workers, they work round the clock and sometimes sleep on the floor, 24h/7.  It is the number one reason why most domestic workers run away from their jobs.

 ABUSE

It can be sexual or emotional and verbal. Sexual is mostly attributed to men but there are instances whereby, women have sexually abused their domestic workers especially if they are young virile men. Nevertheless, the rate of sexual abuse by the men of the house is alarming. Some are raped or are continuously abused until they get pregnant and then they get dumped like garbage.

Sexual abuse is closely followed by emotional abuse. Despite what they do, for some mistresses, there is no pleasing them. They find reasons to find faults where none exists, raining abuses and insults on such until they run away.

BREACH OF CONTRACT

Both parties are guilty here. Sometimes, the workers look for better paying jobs and leave the employment before their expected contract expires. Looking at this, it is hard to blame such because, many employers breach contracts too. They make promises which are hardly kept.  For example, the usual line is after two years or so, they have to either send their workers to school or put them to be apprentices to learn any trade of their choice. Sadly, not many employers respect this contract and follow through. Many manipulate their workers until they are either forced to labour in vain or leave without seeing a dime of their money.

 

 

THE LURE OF ‘BUSH FALLING’

While the thrill of travelling abroad is waning in some circles, many domestic workers are finding it the ultimate goal to one day travel abroad. They give up any chances of making it here; grasp the first opportunity that comes by and travel abroad by all means possible. Despite the horror stories of domestic workers in other countries, most of these workers have become suddenly mute to any warnings given to them by well wishers. To them, these well wishers are enemies of progress who, do not want them too to board ‘oroplanes’ and fly the skies. And of course, they cannot see nor hear for themselves as they are more interested in watching Nigerian movies and Tele evangelizers.

The list can go on and infinitum but these; to the best of my knowledge, are some of the most pressing causes of the scarcity of domestic workers. Gone are the days where many were treated like members of the families they worked for. Still, sometimes, no matter how well they are treated, some still maltreat the kids under their care, make away with the family gold and compete with the madam of the house. The irony is that the few people who treat their workers well are caught in the tangle of this stress-o-metre. Times have changed and more and more domestic workers are getting bold; which is a good thing. The sad part is many do not understand they now have bargain powers and can call the shots. Many of these women are desperate and they are even ready to pay any reasonable  amount demanded yet, the workers are leaving in droves and the women are always back to square one, juggling work, house, kids you name it.

Of course, I can hear some people say why don’t these career women leave their jobs altogether?  Sometimes, they can but they also have passions to fulfil. Other times, they just cannot especially if, they are the ones bringing in the hefty pay cheque the family depend on.

What we really need now to find a solution to this problem is to put in place an institution and by laws that carter for the needs and working conditions of these workers. This makes sure they are well paid and well taken care of. There are talks that something like that already exists in Yaoundé. If that is the case, I applaud this bold step and hope it gains ground. Until then, I can only empathize with decent fair minded employers caught in the tangle of this stress-o-metre of domestic workers crises because of the actions of the majority. It is truly a cause for concern.

                        

 ARREY  E. AGBOR- NDAKAW

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Author: ARREY - ECHI

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